Archive | September, 2013

We All Have A “Past”…

24 Sep

Another try tomorrow night.

Another “first date.”  Will this end disastrously?  Will it just fizzle out and leave me wondering if I did something wrong?  Or could something come of this?   I guess there’s one way to find out.

But, there’s a catch I never expected to deal with.

He’s a single dad.

I’m a committed Christian.  I wear a purity ring.  I can honestly say that I am a virgin- that I’ve never been kissed- by choice.  Since I was 13 years old, I’ve dreamed of that moment at the altar when my pastor would pronounce us husband and wife, and we would seal our promise with my first kiss.  

I didn’t expect him to have saved his first kiss for me- if he had, great, but if not, no big deal.  I had always assumed, though, that we would both be virgins.  That we would both be clumsy and unsure of ourselves at first, but we would have the rest of our lives to figure it out.  That neither of us would come with a “past”.  

But, right away when the Christian website matched us, I saw that he was a nice-looking guy with a great smile, that he attended church weekly, that he had a vocational degree, and that he had one child.  I responded to his message.  We shared our testimonies.  More than a decade has passed since he “fell into sin,” (his own words), with his son’s mother.  He was in high school.  Since that time, he  has given his life to Christ and has been very active in his church.  He also finished an associate’s degree while working and raising his son full-time.  

There’s no logical reason for me to hold his past against him.  We all have a “past,” regardless of what kind of sin we fell into.  We all needed a Savior.  His past has been washed away by the Blood.  I’m interested in who he is, not who he was.

So, tomorrow, I’ll find out more about who he is.  Because who he was is no more important than who I was.